Human mind is so selfish, no matter what the situation is, it will always be able to calculate the most lucrative route that benefits it. Lets see, for instance "oh no its raining, i don't have an umbrella, damn i need to get indoors now" "wait a minute, i had to get some groceries, great i will do that while i am indoors" or "damn i left my wallet at home" "great i won't end up spending extra today!" or "oh no the bus is late" "great i wont have to mention i got up late, just blame it on the bus!". These days even break ups are advantageous to people. "Hey I'm *single* ready to mingle now!" "oh please pity me, this person left me, and I am going through a horrible phase". That is life.
I wish i could make a big deal about it, and talk about it so openly with people, I would feel so empowered! i guess that's why its done. Anyway, for me love is so personal that i cant think of discussing any aspect (good or bad) of it with anyone other than that special person. But today i am going to come out of my little cocoon and explain what it means to me.
Ye vorld hai na vorld, is main do prakar ke log hote hain, ek jo apne pyar ko pakad ke rakhte hain aur ek doosre ke bina jee nahi paate, or doosre jinke liye pyaar itni gehri chees hoti hai ki saath rehna sab kuch nahi hota. Hum (yaani main) un doosre prakar ke logon me se hain.
For my friends who don't know hindi too well, I've written in Amitabh Bachchan's Bunty Bubly accent, that there are two kinds of people in this world, one, who love so dearly that they hold on to their partners and cant live without each other and second who think love is so deep it doesn't require to hold on but to let go. and I believe in the latter.
For me, you cant make love work, it exists, its immortal and you have to discover it, and the more time and space you allow it, the longer it lives.
If you love someone, you have to let go, and i promise you if its true you will be together forever. But if you don't let go and allow that love to grow, the trust to build and space to nurture, it can get suffocating.
Okay this is sounding extremely didactic, and that's not my intention. Its just an emotional me trying to get across what most people will not relate to. Some people might think i have commitment issues, but its not true, you can still commit if you have mutual understanding of S.P.A.C.E. (that has annoyed some people)
Another fact that keeps the type one people going are expectations and their energy to meet those expectations. But whats the need? You're always expecting to be together, expecting to call / take calls, expected to think before any action, expected to report, expected to be loved back.. If you want to love then just love, just give, don't expect anything return! It's that same selfish human quality.
A person holds on to his loved one because he is selfish, he wants her for himself and expects the partner to reciprocate. This is not what I call love.
Love is fairness, trust, mutual space, respect (even after a break up, as no matter what goes wrong, you do not make a mockery of it in public), selflessness, oxygen, water, fire, dance and music.
Keep loving, never stop loving..
phew.. it's really a crime to be ideological in this world.
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A really nice post, marked by your honesty in expression without the intent of being 'politically correct'!
ReplyDeleteAnd a great blog .... Good luck with your dance classes :)
hmm.. quite honest.. seems drawn from numerous experiences or observations.. I don't think it's a crime to be idealogical. But one should seek to see where the limits of idealogy fail. My reckoning is that everyone's different and everyone reacts differently to a breakup or a commitment depending on their background, their morals, their values, their age and their ambitions. Trying to get everyone to work in a particular manner or observe a particular behaviour won't work and never has. I admire the principle. I doubt the execution.
ReplyDeleteI agree aditya, but this is the reason why these principles have to be written because the dominant part of the world will doubt their execution. If only you experience, you can choose from between the two sides, and there will be fewer who choose the second. I respect everyone is different and react differently but others should respect that as well.
ReplyDeleteWell, we are at a stalemate here. You're on the idealogical side and I'm a lot more cynical. I think the idea of sharing your experience and your observation is good. Always having someone else point out the multiple options in a situation is always good. But I also think that going through these experiences where you have to make a choice between two options also teaches us something about ourselves and how we react to events. I think that's something that should be experienced, undiluted by someone else's experience. So thanks for the options.. but we can consider just the two for the experience..
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely! experience is everything, and its so wonderful to see how each individual derives their own judgments from it. Mine is just a personal point of view, and like i said in the entry, its not meant to be didactic.
ReplyDeletehmm.. i had to look up didactic. Didn't remember the meaning on that one.. Thanks...!
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